“You can’t always get what you want. You can’t always get what you want. You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.” –You Can’t Always Get What You Want (The Rolling Stones)
So far 2015 has been what I will call ‘interesting’. I’ve been faced with some challenges and a little bit of change. I’m in what Martha Beck refers to as Square 1. The mantra here is: “I don’t know what the hell is going on, and that’s ok.” Sometimes it doesn’t feel ok though; it feels really crappy! Here’s a snippet of some of the small stuff that’s gone on: my website was under construction for most of January (making that just over 2 months altogether!), my dog got fleas, business has been slower, and I had to cancel a trip for a retreat (that was given to me as a Christmas present) because of a snowstorm. (I’ll save the big stuff for another day.)
The small stuff can be super stressful if we let it. I’ve had days where I’ve questioned whether I’m doing the right thing by being an entrepreneur. I keep making lists of things I ‘need’ to do, and although I am getting lots accomplished, it still feels like there is a lot to do. Life seems very doom and gloom when viewed from this perspective (with the ‘I’ll never _______’ mindset). My brain has been very active as the ego is fighting to keep itself alive. The good news is I recognize it’s fear talking, so I take time to notice everything that’s going well instead.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~Oprah Winfrey~
When I stop thinking about what ‘could’ go wrong and focus only on the present moment, here’s what I notice… Life is good! I am safe. I have food and shelter. I have fresh air. I am blessed with the unconditional love of my puppy. I have so much support from my friends and family. I am surrounded by talented healers – coaches, Reiki practitioners and hypnotherapists. (Some have even offered their services for free in the last month!) I have enough time to do the things that I want to do. I am healthy. I do work that I love and find meaningful. All is well.
By focusing on what I have, I see that I always get what I need. In the moment, I sometimes can’t make sense of why things happen the way they do, but I trust that The Universe has my back. The result is that I am better able to serve others – my clients, my family and friends, and even people I haven’t met. Because I’ve figured out how to do things I didn’t know how to do, endured heartbreak, let go of what I couldn’t control, changed what I needed to, and survived troubled times, I can show others that it’s possible for them too thereby fulfilling my life’s purpose.
“Remember sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~Dalai Lama~